Most of our family and friends have been notified. We have implemented a new policy in the Oney household regarding gifts. We have noticed that as our children are showered with gifts, they (and by they I mean Sophie) don't seem to value the gifts as it is often left laying in random places around the house or found broken or 'colored' on. Furthermore, we don't want our children to expect gifts when someone arrives at our house. We don't want our children to judge and/or value people based on the size of dollar sign they see when someone walks in the room. We want our children to value people based upon their kindness and ethics.
So that being said, we are asking everyone for one year to not bring any gifts into our house... particularly those in the form of toys. Obviously with holidays and birthdays coming up, we realize that many will feel compelled or want to provide gifts to our children. Even we have to buy gifts for our children (we aren't THAT mean that we'd deprive them of all things). So here is a list of acceptable items:
2. Books (coloring books, workbooks, reading books, ...)
3. Food (please please please do not go overboard on the sugar... we will restrict it).
4. Tickets to events or memberships (zoo, museums, plays, etc...)
5. Love coupons or gifts of service (take someone to the park, take someone out for icecream, etc..)
6. Lessons (ballet, dance, soccer, basketball, swim, etc...)
While I know this may be irritating for many, we really ask that you respect our wishes and help us as we try and mold children who will appreciate the gifts you give and appreciate you for yourself and not for what you buy for them. By doing this, we also hope that our children will not grow up with entitlement issues... and I think everyone can agree that if we succeed that would be a wonderful thing.
Again, we are trying this for one year. After a year has past, we will reevaluate this policy and make changes, alterations, or scrap it completely based upon how this year goes and the attitudes we see. Thank you everyone for understanding and helping us to mold our children into good citizens.