Thursday, February 20, 2014

Big News

 So I have been withholding information about the Oney family. Don't feel bad... I still haven't talked to my own kids.

Well the BIG news is that Sophie is a BIG sister and Connor will soon be a BIG brother.

Little unexpected, but we are expecting Baby Oney #3 this August. And we will find out the baby's gender sometime in April. We are waiting until then before telling Sophie who recently informed me that she knows why she got a brother. She informed me that when you have kids they go in a certain order- girl, boy, girl, boy, girl, boy, and that is why she got a brother. I had to laugh and laugh.

Anyway, once we find out "for sure" (if you can call it that) the gender, we plan to let the kids know. Hopefully Sophie isn't disappointed.

Sophie Says.... About Justin Bieber

This is very close to accurate on a conversation I had last morning with Sophie in the van on the way to school. I was not exactly prepared.

Sophie: Mom did you know Justin Bieber laughed at the police and they didn't like it so they put him in jail? Giselle and Angelo saw it on the news. Did you know that?
Mom: I did, honey. But he also wasn't driving safe and that's why the police talked to him.
S: I didn't know you knew about it. Why didn't you tell me?
M: Because Mommy doesn't like him. He's not a good role model.
S: Not safe, that means he was driving fast.
M: Yes.
S: Was it in Texas? I'd like to see Justin Bieber.
M: No it wasn't here. It was in another state, so you wouldn't have been able to see him.
S: Which state? Arkansas?
M: No, it's a place called California.
S: I've never been there. It's like Chuck E. Cheese.
M: Huh?
S: Yeah, California is like Chuck E. Cheese. I want to go there.
M: Um, ok.
S: Mom, Justin Bieber is white.
M: Ok, where did that come from?
S: Is he a bunny?
M: No he's not a bunny.
S: I thought he was a white bunny. Can you show me what he looks like?
M: Not right now honey, I'm driving.
S: Ok. Giselle still likes Justin Bieber.
M: That's ok if Giselle wants to like him, but Mommy doesn't like him.
S: Ok Mom.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014


You know the song from Blazing Saddles- "Tired"?

That's how I feel. Like all my energy, all my plans, all my interests have just been sucked out of my life and into a black hole.

Instead of consuming weekends with family time with my family and completing necessary chores around the house, I find myself glued to my computer and school/work email. I work on powerpoints, assignments, lesson plans, evaluation forms, student behavioral forms, professional development book work, student tier ranking on academic test performance, grading, entering grades, and a host of other forms and to dos.

I used to enjoy spending the weekends doing things with the kids. Brian used to loathe the fact that when the weekend came I was always antsy to get out and do things with the kids- parks, museums, etc... Now, I struggle to get out of bed, and when I do, I have to work on school stuff. And don't think I'm not working on this stuff during the week- both during class when I'm not teaching, but also after class and occasionally during assorted meetings which happen twice a week.

Perhaps there is something to having a job where you can leave your troubles behind at work. Where you literally do work 8 to 5, and then spend the rest of your day and weekend focusing on yourself and your family.

I still like teaching, but this whole unforseen aspect is proving challenging not just me, but for my family. It's something I think few people see who are not in the teaching profession. Perhaps they focus on the holidays and the time off in the summer. But I feel like while I've been giving my students 110% of my life, it's caused me to give my own children just 10%. And in the end, students will come and go and despite the influences I may try to instill in them, there will always be 1,000 other influences which can impact their life for better or worse while I'm not there. My children, however, will be my responsibility for a lifetime and will always need a mother (even if they don't think so when they become teenagers).

So I often wonder what to do. How to find a work/life balance during the school year. How to pursue a career in education, yet not feel like I'm betraying and hurting my family by doing so. I wonder if everyone struggles with this? Or has someone found a way to overcome it? What has helped you with similar struggles and thoughts?

For those who haven't heard the song I mentioned previously, click THIS and it will take you to the video.  Course as you've probably read, my problem is not exactly the same as Madeline Kahn's the video, but the sentiment of being exhausted is still the same.

Sophie Says....

Lately I've gotten a little extra one on one time with Sophie so I've been privy to some interesting thoughts and comments.

Sophie: Mom, do mermaids go to church?
Mom: What do you think?
S: No because I didn't see Ariel go to church.
M: Well she got married by a priest, so perhaps there was a church on the boat and maybe even one underwater.
S: Ok.

Connor: *cries and hits Sophie*
Sophie: Connor, you can't hit. And mommy and daddy say I'm the boss of you.
C: *frowns and continues to whimper*
Mommy: I don't remember saying that
S: Uh huh. You said it one time yesterday.
M: Ok, well that might have been to help daddy out, but that doesn't mean every day.
S: Oh, I thought it was everyday.

Oscar: *barking outside at the birds*
Sophie: Mommy, Oscar is barking at God's creatures.
Mommy: Yes Sophie. Yes he is.
S: That's not nice.

Sophie: Mommy I got pink eye. If Connor gets pink eye then he'll be a girl.
Mommy: No Sophie that's not exactly how it works. You can't get green eye or blue eye. Connor will still be a boy even if he gets pink eye.
S: No, pink eye is for girls, because pink is a girl color.
M: Would you like blue eye or purple eye if you couldn't have pink eye? Or would you still want pink eye?
S: I like pink. Pink eye is ok. But it would be ok if I got a rainbow eye. I like rainbow eye.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Era of Sickness

Sickness is sweeping through the Oney home. First, Sophie got a cold (accompanied by a fever), then Connor got it and is still slowly trying to get rid of it as mucus coats his face, and lastly I got it and have mostly gotten through it. Now, Sophie has pink eye. GREAT! We have spent at least 1 day each week in January and now February home with a sick child. On the plus side it gives me a break from school. On the negative side the kids are sick.

So the blog has taken a back seat lately as we have all been struggling towards one goal- getting healthy and germ free!